I hate to break it to you, but, mom isn't perfect. Yep, that "I love mom" tattoo on your arm is memorializing someone who didn't get it right every time. She would have preferred to always be present for you while giving enough space to grow; patient and firm, loving and setting proper boundaries; wisdom to say "yes" and "no"; graciously lead and gently push when needed; but (this is where the audio track of a record scratching happens) she is fully human. My mom hasn't been perfect and she justly received an imperfect son. Through the gift of this special relationship we gain a great understanding of the world around us. For most, this relationship is a blessing and for some, it is a painful reminder of tough days. All hero's have flaws and perfection is not expected. We might have desired June Cleaver or Clair Huxtable as mom, but these TV characters, were just that, television characters. Who you had was real and for that you can be thankful. Your growing eyes witnessed a life lived and informed decisions that you make today. Remembering and appreciating the life that delivered you into this world and forgiving the failings allows for proper celebration of a hero. Thanks Mom for being my hero as you walked through the many trials and cared for so many along the way.
What sacrifices did mom make for you? How were her dreams or desires postponed to care for you? What is a specific memory that you have laughed together about? What was a weakness that revealed her humanity? How is your personality just like mom? What physical characteristic, that you have, most reminds you of her? Maybe it is a good time to call her.